Insights and perspectives to help INFPs, INFJs, highly sensitives and intuitives live better.
hi there, I'm Jas 👋
For as long as I can remember, I've been trying to understand myself better and figure life out.
In my early 20s, I landed on the discoveries of being an introvert and highly sensitive person (HSP), like many INFPs and INFJs are. I was empathetic, sensitive and intuitive.
Lots started making sense when I looked back on my life. I now expected to have all of the answers, and I tried really hard to find them. But instead, it was more a case of...
Okay, so now what?
I started out reading all sorts of psychology and self-help books. I then turned to blogs, books and TED Talks. I did a lot of reading and research. I even ended up studying a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP), aka 'the science of happiness'.
I looked for answers in introvert/HSP/INFJ forums and articles and memes. To be honest, it was nice to feel somewhat understood and meet others who could relate to my experience. Tbh, though, a lot of what I read wasn't helpful and only kept telling me how unique and rare and special I was.
I was left with this overwhelming sense of: "Ok, so now what?"
I did eventually take action (quitting my job - see below - was a big one). But I continued to try to solve my problems through reading and research and, the more information I took in, the more confused and stuck I felt. I felt helpless, anxious and depressed.
How did I change?
Phew, that's a big question.
My growth has come from learning, self-reflection and taking action. (I know it's cliched, but it's true). And it's been an important shift to realise that all of the answers I need are already within me.
I've gotten out of my head and tried things out in the real world to see how they felt and to inform my intuition. I've been supported through therapy and coaching which have also both played their part in helping me uncover and realise what was already inside of me.
Slowly but surely, through trial-and-error, I have nudged myself onto a better path... one I continue along to this day.
What does my life look like now?
I am pleased to tell you that my life today is very different than it was 5 years ago, and it also continues to evolve.
I left my corporate job in 2015, and my work situation today is much more 'me'. In my personal life I am far better aware of who I am, what I need, and I'm better equipped to manage my life on a day-to-day basis.
Perhaps most of all, I've uncovered who I am and how I want to live my life - and the path I'm on is more closely aligned to both of those things.
What do we need to live a meaningful life?
Based on my own experiences and from conversations I've had with others, as INFPs, INFJs, highly sensitive and intuitive people, we:
- seek purpose in the work that we do
- seek a work-life balance that feels good to us
- have multiple interests and passions
- benefit from 'going deep' (inner work and healing - emotional stuff)
- have a deep interest in being our best, highest selves
- have an affinity for writing and other forms of creative self-expression
- benefit from learning to manage our energy and our energetic boundaries
- benefit from learning how to better manage our wellbeing and incorporate self-care into our lives
So, a life that honours and recognises these things (or, at least, some of them) is usually what we need to feel happy, healthy and in alignment.
Why INF Club?
I knew I'd found 'my people' in fellow INFs and highly sensitives. I felt so similar to these sensitive, intuitive people and so connected to them. I knew they were kindred spirits.
Whilst I found a bunch of information and memes and surface-level articles ('10 things you'll be able to relate to if you're an introvert'), I just couldn't find a dedicated place for INFPs and INFJs that placed an emphasis on moving beyond the information and actually doing the work to improve our lives.
Growth comes from learning, reflecting and - the most difficult part - taking action. However tiny those steps are... without action, nothing changes.
Here on INF Club I share my perspectives and the perspectives of others, through the blog, the podcast and the newsletter I send out weekly.
It's been an imperfect, messy journey that continues. I hope INF Club helps you along on yours.
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