Today’s written interview is with Ria Elizabeth (INFP).
Ria is a Women's Depression Coach. She uses powerful intuition-led coaching techniques & embodiment principles to guide her clients into a life full of possibility and joy. She is super passionate about her work as it initially helped her overcome her own depression, anxiety and binge-eating disorder. She lives in Miami, Florida with her husband and two children. Some of her greatest joys are eating chocolate ice cream, being in nature, and intuitively dancing.
Hi Ria, it's lovely to be doing this written intervie with you. So could we get started by finding out where in the world you currently reside? Is this also where you grew up?
I’m currently in the Miami, Florida area. It is most definitely NOT where I grew up - I wish! I grew up in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. The majority of my childhood was spent in the freezing cold and I feel so lucky to live in Florida now!
Do you remember what you were like as a child?
Honestly - no. I actually have a hard time remembering anything under the age of 10 and only recently began remembering little things with the help of my coach. I’m learning that I was very serious...and felt a lot of responsibility to help my parents!
What was school like for you? And how were your teenage years as a whole?
So, I actually went to a Francophone school until I was 15 - which means that EVERYTHING was in French. Speaking English was literally against the rules. This was very frustrating for me at the time and caused a repression in my ability to express myself. You would think that spending 10 years in a french school would have gifted me with the ability to speak French fluently...but it actually left me with poor grades in school and I was always getting in trouble for speaking English with my friends.
My teenage years began with the sudden death of my father (at age 15) and continued on to become a really confusing time for me. I began to live a double life - where in one part of my life I would present myself as “perfect and responsible” (mostly to my religious community and my mother) and the other part would be to let myself be free with my friends. I also experienced my first love when I was a teenager and ended up with a severely broken heart at the age of 18! But that’s a story for another time ;)
What words, or phrases, would you use to describe your current self?
Honestly - while I don’t want to sound...hmmmm...I don’t even know like what…
The word “free” is how I would describe my current self.
I have been through quite the journey when it comes to healing my inner world - and I’ve reached a place in my life where I feel free to express myself, free to take risks, free to be imperfect...
When did you first realise that you were an introvert? How did this happen?
Well - I’m not really sure if there was one moment. I just remember hearing people throwing the words around (introvert and extrovert) and thinking…
Well, I’m definitely NOT an extrovert.
If you know it, what’s your Myers-Briggs personality type?
When did you first do the Myers-Briggs test?
Hmmm..probably about 4 years ago.
Has discovering your personally impacted you in any meaningful way? If so, how?
It’s just helped me own who I am and feel a sense of empowerment in knowing that being introverted, intuitive, feeling and perceiving type...well, these are all superpowers!
What qualities do you think you share with other INF’s?
I feel like I share the quality of being a heart-based human being. Like...I care, alot. About people. About the planet. About living a life I love. I just really, really care. <3
What were your favourite subjects at school? (If applicable) What did you study at university/college?
Anything that had to do with learning about the body! Kinesiology was my favorite one in college….I studied Exercise Physiology and Nutrition!
What are you spending your time on at the moment?
Right now my time is spent: 1) Connecting with myself through meditation, breathwork, movement, and other self-love practices. 2) Showing up for my children and husband as best I can and 3) serving my coaching clients to the best of my ability. And in between those three things, I eat and shower. Lol.
Was there a moment in your life when you made a drastic change?
Yes - it was three years ago when I had enough of my suffering, my depression, my binge eating disorder, my anxiety...and I decided to invest in a coach for myself. Life was never the same after that.
Do you have a preferred creative/artistic outlet? Can you tell us a bit about this?
I LOVE dancing. But not typical go-to-a-dance-class-and-learn-someone-else’s-movement dancing. I love to intuitively dance - which basically means that I turn on the music and turn my brain off and just let me body do what it feels like doing. Soooo therapeutic and art ends up coming through! Feel free to check out my Instragram account @riaelizabethabang to see what I’m talking about!
Would you describe yourself as a highly sensitive person (HSP) or an empath?
My sensitivity, though, has become a massive superpower of mine. I use it to sense what my children are feeling, what my clients are needing...it’s helped me become a highly effective relational human.
What does being 'successful' look like to you?
Being completely free. Self expression is free. Financially free. Time freedom. All the freedom for me, please!
And what about 'happiness'?
For me happiness is about feeling a deep peace inside me that no matter what my outside looks like - I am made of love and have access to the love that’s all around me from a benevolent Universe (don’t mean to get all wishy washy on you but this question is kind of wishy washy hahaha!) My ingredients for happiness? Stillness. Silence. & Allowance of What Is.
At first these three ingredients may feel like torture - but then it becomes purely divine.
Do you like to plan things, or are you more of a go-with-the-flow type of person?
Definitely a go-with-the-flow type of person.
What does your 'perfect Sunday' look like?
Sleeping in, spending time outside listening to the animals and feeling the wind on my face, playing with my children, eating delicious food, watching movies, taking naps, and then intimate one-on-one time with my husband.
Is there anything you've read recently that you've loved?
OMG I just read the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle Melton - it was earth shattering.
And do you have any favourite blogs or podcasts?
Actually - I don’t really have any favorites! My preferences seem to shift week to week depending on where I’m at in my journey and what I’m in the mood for…
How about favourite movies or TV shows? Anything you've seen recently that you'd recommend?
Ok - don’t make fun of me - but I’m OBSESSED with the TV show Outlander. Like giggling-in-a-ball-on-the-couch obsessed hahaha. It’s SO GOOD!
If you could go back in time and meet "you" back in 2010, is there any advice that you'd give this younger self?
Wow...I would say to her that she is so beautiful just the way she is and to trust her intuition over everything else.
If you could one or two pieces of advice to fellow INFPs and INFJs, what would they be?
I find that as INF’s, we can feel afraid or have a lack of trust towards our feelings and intuition. My piece of advice is to do everything you can to shift that. It’s safe to feel. It’s safe to follow our intuition. So many beautiful surprises lie in our ability to feel and know.
What does 'self-care' mean for you? How do you practise it?
Self-care, to me, means meeting myself where I am with compassion. Not judging myself or trying to “fix” myself...but knowing that I’m always doing the best I can with what I have going on internally - and giving myself permission to be exactly where I am is the perfect medicine to help me continue forward.
Do you have a favourite quote?
“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” - Michaelangelo
Where can others find and connect with you online?
Before I let you go, is there anything else you'd like to say?
This was so fun- thank you!
Just in case you are really struggling emotionally - feeling disconnected from your intuition and lost...know that there is nothing wrong with you. Know that freedom is available to you. Allow yourself to be seen and heard and that will set you free.
Looking forward to connecting with you
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