Today’s written interview is with Darcy Ritt (INFP).
Hola, I'm Darcy—writer, Spanish linguist, and coffee enthusiast. I have my Master's degree in Spanish Translation, but my proudest accomplishment yet has been putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) as I edit the manuscript of my debut fiction novel. I hope that you are finding happiness in the little things and embracing all of the magic and wonder that come with being an INFx!
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Hi there! What would you like to be called before we begin?
I’m Darcy Ritt—nice to meet you! Feel free to call me “Darc” (pronounced with a soft “c”).
Okay great. So can we start this interview by finding out where in the world you currently reside? Is this also where you grew up?
I’m currently living in the hometown where I grew up, a square-mile town in the East Coast of the U.S. There are lakes and trees everywhere, and it’s really beautiful.
I’ve spent the last two years always itching to travel (with Southern Spain always being my top choice), but I’m excited to be a bit more rooted-down for now. The idea of having a “homebase” and sticking to one spot for a while both terrifies and comforts me.
Do you remember what you were like as a child?
I was a fly on the wall, always soaking in my surroundings. I guess not much changes in two-and-a-half decades!
What were school & your teenage years like for you?
I was very studious growing up—and still am—due to my curious nature. I actually enjoyed doing homework (crazy, I know), which is most likely why I ended up getting my Master’s degree later on.
My teenage years as a whole were full of lots of concert-going, lake-jumping, and hanging out with my ESFJ twin sister.
What words, or phrases, would you use to describe your current self?
Quirky. Observant. Creative. Patient. (Overly) empathetic. In need of a nap (or two). Dog-obsessed. Quietly rebellious. Witty. Caffeinated.
When did you first realise that you were an introvert? How did this happen?
I’ve always known deep down that I was an introvert, probably even before I technically knew what the word “introvert” meant. While other kids were screaming on the playground, I was always kind of swimming around in the LaLa Land that is my mind. Just to give you an idea, I had an imaginary friend when I was a kid who I named Schmignarfin Feefer. He wore a grey suit and carried a briefcase.
My (admittedly overly-vivid) imagination still comes in handy today—my debut fiction novel is well on its way to becoming published!
What's your Myers-Briggs personality type?
INFP-T. I’m hoping that with time, I’ll become an INFP-A.
When did you first take the Myers-Briggs test and discover your personality type?
I was 22 years old and at a camping music festival (I’m a bit of a self-proclaimed “tree-hugger”). During the festival, there was a workshop on MBTI types. Little did I know at the time how much that little piece of paper would change my life—for the better. :D
Has discovering you were an INF personality type impacted you in any way? If so, how?
Finding out that I’m an INFP was a huge “AHA!” moment in my life. I’ve always been proud to march to the beat of my own (off-key) drum, but I started feeling isolated and misunderstood in my early twenties—despite my large friend group. Finally being able to identify with other INFx’s has not only helped me connect with others on a deeper level, but also with myself.
What qualities do you think you share with other INF personality types?
My Myers-Briggs “Spidey Senses” are pretty accurate—I’m usually able to tell if someone is an INFx within a few minutes of meeting them. But then again, we’re so different from other Myers-Briggs types that we’re not all that hard to spot. From what I’ve observed, we INFx’s tend to be sensitive, great at listening, artistically talented in some shape or form, and unrivaled in our unique view of the world.
What were your favourite subjects at school? And (if applicable) what did you study at university/college?
Most definitely Spanish and English. I finally chose to study Spanish with a minor in Journalism (after switching my major about five times!), and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I went on to get my Master’s in Spanish Translation, which has allowed me to connect with people of all different cultures. It’s funny how the world really is a lot smaller than we think.
I mean, the whole “pineapple-on-pizza” debate is as much of a controversial topic in Spain than it is in the U.S.!
What are you spending your time on at the moment?
This is a hard one for me to answer! I feel like I always have ten different projects going on at once, so I’ve been working on simplifying my life the best I can (#minimalism). My top priorities right now are writing, working remotely on Spanish translation projects, and saving up to travel to South America sometime next year.
And of course, lots of guitar-playing!
Was there a moment in your life when you made a drastic change?
I’ve made quite a few drastic changes in my life, but my most recent one was cutting 12 inches off of my hair. I’d thought about doing it for five months, but people kept telling me that I’d be crazy to cut off such long hair (it reached past my waist). Well, the rebellious INFP in me was only fueled by people’s criticism! I trusted my intuition, and my new haircut came out great (and a lot easier to maintain).
As the years go by, I’m learning to take more risks and be more self-confident in my decisions. And cheers to that.
(I know you've mentioned writing already...) Do you have a preferred creative/artistic outlet? Can you tell us a bit about this?
I think if I had to choose between playing the guitar and oxygen, some days I’d choose my guitar. Her name is Libby, and she’s been such a source of relief for me these past five years. I’m not even ashamed to admit that one of my best friends is an inanimate object!
Would you describe yourself as a highly sensitive person (HSP) or an empath?
I am most definitely both a highly sensitive person and an empath—I consider these traits to be both my Achilles’ heel and my superpower. It can be overwhelming when environments that are fine for other people send my senses into full-blown overdrive. But you know what? It’s also the reason why I’m able to connect with my surroundings and other people on such a deep level.
Luckily, I have a faithful spirit animal—my dog—who is always there to keep me calm.
What does being 'successful' look like to you?
I think a lot of us INFx’s disagree with society’s standards of what “success” looks like. For me, a successful person is one thing: unafraid. We live with so much fear on a largely subconscious level—Is my partner going to leave me for someone else? Will I get the promotion I’ve been waiting for? Is my family proud of my accomplishments?
Once we stop limiting the limitless potential that we naturally have inside of us, it’s amazing how much more beautiful the world gets.
What about 'happiness'... what does that look like to you? Do you have any ‘ingredients’ for this?
Recipe for Happiness
2 cups of self-love
1 tablespoon of meditation
With a dash of gratitude, sharing, and laughter
Bake at 345 degrees (or until golden brown)
Haha, I love your recipe! :) Do you like to plan things, or are you more of a go-with-the-flow type of person?
I would love to lie here and say that I’m a planner, but I wouldn’t be fooling anybody! I’m very go-with-the-flow by nature, but I am learning that having a bit more structure in my life is actually a good thing. I wrote an article about this exact topic for Introvert, Dear if you’re interested in checking it out. :D
What does your 'perfect Sunday' look like?
Snoozing my alarm three times. Putting on some Bossa Nova Jazz while I give my dog a five-star massage for twenty minutes. Making a (generous) pot of coffee. Lots of stretching. Playing the guitar on my porch while I listen to the birds.
Is there anything you've read, watched or listened to recently, that you've loved?
I read a lot of Young Adult literature to cater to the ever-present inner child in me. My two most recent favorites were The Thing About Jellyfish by Ali Benjamin and I’ll Give you the Sun by Jandy Nelson. I literally couldn’t put these books down—they’ve earned a special spot on my bookshelf.
Any favourite blogs or podcasts?
My hands-down favorite podcast is a Youtube series called Un Café con Minimalistamente. It’s a Spanish podcast dedicated to all things minimalism, and it’s very beautifully done. When we generally think of minimalism, the first thing that comes to mind is our inner Marie Kondo throwing away everything in our closets. But this podcast introduces the concept that minimalism not only applies to our physical belongings, but to our mental and emotional states as well.
And how about favourite movies or TV shows? Anything you've seen recently that you'd recommend?
I hardly watch tv these days (unless you count my Spanish telenovelas), but some of my favorite movies of all-time are American Beauty, Fight Club, and Orange County.
If you could go back in time and meet "you" back in 2010, is there any advice that you'd give this younger self?
Ufffffff...where to start! I think a common theme amongst us INFx’s is that we tend to be overly self-critical. I spent a lot of my younger years creating this-is-the-Apocalypse-and-I'm-a-complete-failure scenarios in my head, so I think I’d tell my 2010-self to not take life so dang seriously.
I’d also tell her not to wear that awful strapless dress to prom.
If you could give one or two pieces of advice to your fellow INFs, what would they be?
1). Adapt to society, but don’t change yourself too much.
Yes, sometimes we have to reel-in our imaginations and emotions in order to stay productive, but keep in mind to not change yourself too much. Always keep your spark alive!
2). Don’t bury your dreams.
If you don’t write your novel, record your acoustic album, or illustrate that comic book...who will? Even ten minutes of creative time per day makes a huge difference. So go ahead—your gifts are meant to be shared with the world. :D
What does 'self-care' mean for you? How do you practise it?
I used to think that “self-care” was something that only celebrities did at fancy hotels. But now, I’ve realized that it’s a necessary part of living a healthy, happy life and something that should be prioritized. For me, it can be something as simple as lighting a lavender candle or going for a walk—it’s really just a matter of letting myself know that I deserve time to nurture my well-being. My biggest self-care goal of 2020 is to give myself ample time to recharge my social batteries...without feeling guilty.
Do you have a favourite quote?
My life mantra is a quote by Chuang Tzu that I read in Zen and the Art of Happiness by Chris Prentiss—a highly-recommended read.
“Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.”
This has been so much fun, Darcy. How may others connect with you, should they wish to?
The introvert in me likes to maintain a level of privacy in our digital world, so I’m admittedly not great at keeping an online presence! But I do love the intimate nature of e-mail—it’s the closest thing we have to the written letter these days. Feel free to shoot me an e-mail if anything’s on your mind, or even if you’d just like to say hola.
Lastly, is there anything else you'd like to say?
This is just your friendly reminder to please stay weird—to stay unapologetically “you”—and to take things one day—one moment—at a time. After all, the present moment is all we’ve got!
Cheers to that! This has been such fun, Darcy, thank you for sitting down to write with me :)
Darcy + Jas
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