Today’s member interview is with John Davis.
We also followed up with a podcast conversation: 🎧 episode #20: John Davis
Hey John. So can we start this interview by finding out where in the world you currently reside?
Delray Beach, FL
Do you remember what you were like as a child?
I was a withdrawn child. I only had two friends. Fortunately, I am still friends with these guys. Thankfully, I have many more friends today, but these guys are very important to me.
What was school like for you? And how were your teenage years as a whole?
They were difficult years. Not having many friends, I didn’t have many connections or support from other people. I spent a lot of time alone. Today, I see this as a positive, but I didn’t understand that when I was younger.
What words, or phrases, would you use to describe your current self?
Hopeful, empathic, curious, and courageous.
When did you first realise that you were an introvert? How did this happen?
I realized it in my teen years. I knew that I needed a lot of alone time, and that I felt better after being alone. When I got to college, I stayed away from social gatherings as much as possible not because I didn’t like people, but because I was just getting overwhelmed by the energy of others.
What is your Myers-Briggs personality type?
I am both an INFP and INFJ. I have traits of both. Depends on the day for what traits will show up, but I have both.
When did you first do the Myers-Briggs test and realise you were an INF personality type?
Has discovering you were an INF impacted you in any way? If so, how?
Yes. I value my alone time. Now that I have begun to pursue a writing career professionally, I am very grateful. Writing is a very solitary activity. I love it, because I get to explore my inner world by myself. It’s exhilarating for me to spend time alone. I look forward to it.
I love what you’ve said here, and I can resonate with it. You’ve articulated that beautifully.
What qualities do you feel INFJs and INFPs share?
They are all incredibly sensitive and caring people. They have really good hearts, and care deeply about how other people are. They feel everything, so they are in touch with a part of the world that others may not be. They have a sixth sense of sorts. They see things in others that the general population cannot. This makes them incredibly valuable to our world.
What were your favourite subjects at school? What did you study at university/college?
Music and psychology. I earned a BA in Music Performance from Rowan University in New Jersey. I studied saxophone, clarinet, and flute.
Wow, you were quite the musician. What are you spending your time on at the moment?
I am spending a lot of time promoting my new book 'Accept Connect Heal'. I’m also starting my next book. I always write several essays every week.
It sounds like you’ve got lots going on :) Was there a moment in your life when you made a drastic change?
When I moved from Philadelphia to south Florida in 1993. I was experiencing a personal crisis, and needed a change.
You’ve mentioned a couple of them already, but do you have a preferred creative/artistic outlet?
Writing, and creating my inspirational PowerPoint videos.
Would you describe yourself as a 'highly sensitive person', or an empath?
I am an empath and highly sensitive.
Do you have a personal definition of success? What does being successful look like to you?
Successful means that I am spending my time doing something that I love and feel passionate about. Success also means that I’m making a living doing that thing I love to do.
What about happiness... what’s your take on that?
I make sure that I get lots of time alone. Happiness to me is trusting that things are working out the way they are supposed to, regardless of how they actually look. I cannot base my happiness on outside results. I feel happy when I do my best at something I love. I also feel happy being with my wife.
Do you like to plan things, or are you more of a go-with-the-flow type of person?
I am a planner, but I seem to be happiest when I go with the flow.
What does your perfect Sunday (or Saturday) look like?
Going scuba diving with my wife on Saturday, and then eating lunch with friends after the dive. Sunday is playing music at church, and then hanging out with my wife the rest of the day.
That sounds like a beautiful weekend. Is there anything you've read, watch or listened to recently, that you've loved?
And do you have any favourite blogs or podcasts?
Thank you for the mention. And how about favourite movies or TV shows? Anything you've seen recently that you'd recommend?
If you could go back in time and meet yourself back in 2010, is there any advice that you'd give this younger self?
Start writing. You have a lot to say.
Oh I love that. And in a similar vein, if you could offer one or two pieces of advice to your follow INFs, what would they be?
Take lots of time for yourself. Your alone time will become your time of greatest rejuvenation. You will learn to love it. I used to feel shame that I needed that time. Now I put it in my schedule, and I protect that time.
This is so important, I’m so glad that you’ve learned to love and protect this crucial time. I feel this is something all INFPs and INFJs need to carve out for themselves.
Okay John, we’re coming to the end of our interview now. I’ve asked you about happiness and success so far… What does 'self-care' mean for you? How do you practise it?
I get 7 ½ hrs of sleep every night, I meditate every morning, eat three meals every day. I exercise at least three times every week.
I’m glad you’ve found some ‘foundation blocks’ which help you.
Do you have a favourite quote?
”Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that” -Martin Luther King, Jr.
Where can others find and connect with you online?
Lastly, is there anything else you'd like to say?
I am very grateful that you are interested in my writing. I am spending my time spreading a message of hope, and I’m grateful that I have found a community of people who want to make the world a better place.
It’s been a real pleasure to interview you, John, thanks so much for taking part in and showing up just as yourself.
Jas + John
🎧 Listen to our conversation: #episode 20: John Davis
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